of the girls meet the basic standards for the group. What are the standards? And who are you, Susanna Valenti, to set up standards? I don't set them up arbitrarily, my friends. They are simply the basic tenets of human behaviour that come into play when you are in the company of others. You can be a real TV, but that alone
does not make you a nice person to be with. You can even be the quiet type but still be friendly, show interest in others, forget a bit about yourself...don't drive everybody crazy by repeating ad nauseam your "fabulous" adventures. Be helpful without being con- descending.
Don't set yourself up as a perfect example that should be imitated by everybody else. This is especially important when you are talking to a girl who has just come out of her locked room. She's naturally timid, even the thought of being seen by others is still rather horrifying...it is your duty to go easy, respect what- ever physical or social or family limitations she must endure and don't try to force your pattern onto others. Be delicate and tact- ful. Don't pull out a notebook after a few minutes of conversat- ion on your first meeting and request name, address, phone number and occupation. That's none of your TV business!!! If, as it often happens, after a few meetings, you find that you consider each other good friends and you do need a place to mail a picture or perhaps a note, ask tactfully if she has any address you could write to and if there's any name you could address the letter to. There are many TV's who just don't want to take the chance of hav- ing their name and address in somebody else's little notebook. It might fall into the wrong hands even if the owner is sincere and means no harm. So, respect that desire for anonimity and don't insist. Anyway, who cares about the fellow! He's usually a pretty common and rather boring entity. It's the girl within that's fun to know.
Those TV's who are more active should be extremely tactful and not try to push new and inexperienced ones onto adventures (going out I mean) without adequate practice, or supervision. A TV should, above all be realistic. Most of the time the gorgeous image of our own selves within our own minds is far from being so gorgeous. There is a great deal of self deception that must be checked before it's too late. Personally I have been at fault along these lines quite often. After a few successful trips into the outer world I thought that I was as safe as Marylin Monroe in a studio set. Perhaps I have mellowed with time, or perhaps I've taken a better look in the mirror, but my daytime outings have en- tirely ceased. Only evenings or nighttime. Not until, and if, I
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